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Divorcing an Abusive spouse

Divorce from an Abusive Spouse. What you should know.


At home and behind closed doors, or concealed, domestic violence bruises the lives of millions of people each year, the vast majority of them women, and effects expanding circles of millions more, children, relatives, friends, employers. Few situations in marriage can leave a woman feeling more helpless and dread for her safety that being in an abusive relationship with her spouse.

It is not a matter that occurs overnight.  Abuse is a progressive process that goes down a long and damaging slope and produces far-reaching emotional, physical and financial repercussions.

Research show that violence happens at least once in two-thirds of all marriages, and about 95% of the victims of domestic violence are women. Approximately 40% of all physically abused children have also seen physical violence between their parents.

Divorce cases frequently depend on the circumstances surrounding them in what was done, who was contacted and what steps were taken. This means that that one of the first things essential to do is guarantee the family is protected. No matter if it involves moving out of the house, consulting a friend or searching for legal assistance through a lawyer or the police, guaranteeing the safety of the young ones and others affected is the first consideration. The children involved must not be left to the abuser to harm in the case the abuse has extended to them. Removing them from the home is frequently mandatory to guarantee they are safe and free from injury.

What should you do if your spouse is abusing you and your marriage has broken down due to abuse?

Secure your finances. 

If you are trying to get out of an abusive situation, the first thing you must do is secure your finances. Abusers tend to obtain control and frequently do so by taking control of your financial security. Prior to making plans for a divorce, seek financial security.

Gather evidence. 

Evidence is crucial where abuse is involved. As you develop a plan to leave, collect as much evidence as you can. There are three principal kinds of evidence:

  • Photographic evidence, that consists of photos of injuries and broken property
  • Documentary evidence, that consists of recorded phone calls, text messages, e-emails, and letters
  • Eyewitness testimony, that is accounts from people who have witnessed the abuse

Form an escape plan.

You must create a plan to escape from an abusive situation. Frequently, abusers get upset and aggressive if you tell them you are going to leave. Make an escape plan ahead of time.
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Choose a time when you know your spouse will not be home.  Find a safe place to stay. Women's shelters usually provide lodging and monetary help for women in need. One can also talk to family and friends if you're close to anyone if the area. 

Keep communication with any legal professionals secret. 

Once you begin interacting with an attorney, you must do this privately. Even if you are not residing with your spouse when you seek legal counsel, documents can unintentionally get sent to the wrong address. Your spouse may also gain access to private information using your email or social media accounts.

Talk to an attorney. 

You should employ a lawyer as quickly as possible in any divorce but particularly one where abuse is involved. Search for an seasoned lawyer who has experience with these types of situations. It is imperative that application is made for a interim protection order to stop the abuse.

Consider a Rule 43 Order

In many divorce cases and especially in those where the wife is a homemaker it's almost impossible to retain a lawyer due to financial constraints. However, in terms of rule 43 of the High Court rules and rule 58 of the magistrates Court rules an application can be made to court to request a legal costs contribution to allow the homemaker spouse to meet her legal costs. In terms of the aforesaid court rules the applicant can also ask for interim monthly maintenance payments as well as her costs for new accommodation, inclusive of deposits for rental et cetera.

See a therapist. 

Divorce is psychologically devastating for any person. Nevertheless, when abuse is a element you will need time to emotionally heal. Seek out a psychologist for yourself and your young ones in the wake of divorcing an abuser.

How to Obtain a Protection Order?


Learn how to apply for a protection order against an abusive spouse.
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      • Forfeiture of Assets in a Divorce
    • Evicting your spouse divorce
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    • The non-custodian parent and contact
    • Appointing a Guardian in a Will
    • Introducing a new partner to your child
    • Refusal of Contact
    • Suspending Parental Rights
    • Parental Alienation
    • Facilitation
    • Living Arrangements
    • Joint decisions about your child
    • Paternity Disputes
    • The Family Advocate
    • Parenting during separartion
    • Children's Act 38 of 2005
  • Abuse
    • Gender Based Violence in South Africa
    • Domestic Abuse Forms
    • Evicting Wife
    • Domestic Violence Corona Virus
    • Divorcing an Abusive Spouse
    • What is Coercive Control?
    • What is Emotional Abuse
    • What is Sexual Abuse
    • What is Financial Abuse
    • What is Stalking
    • What is Verbal Abuse
    • What is Spiritual Abuse
    • What is Social Abuse
    • Revenge Porn
    • Steps to obtain a Protection Order
    • Domestic Violence eBook
    • The Protection Order
    • Who Qualifies for a Protection Order
    • Breaching a Protection Order
    • Questions on Domestic Abuse
    • Signs of an Abusive Relationship
    • Domestic Violence Information
    • Harassment
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